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    Self-Awareness: Are you having trouble starting or sticking with something?

    I know that I’m not alone in my failure to make a change. After all, there’s a reason that most New Year’s Eve resolutions don’t even last until the end of January. Have you ever set a goal that you didn’t accomplish? Or tried to start something but didn’t stick with it? 

    Maybe there’s something you’re struggling to change now, and that’s why you clicked on this post. 

    The problem with these goals is that we believe our motivation is the only thing we need to change. Therefore, when we don’t follow through, we assume we lack the willpower to stick with it. (Which inevitably leads to a shame cycle that further hurts our chance for success.)

    If you reflect on your failed goals, what do you say about the reason? I imagine many of us would answer something along the lines of, “I really wanted to, but I just didn’t have enough motivation to do it.”

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    Self Matters: Your Identity: Be Who You Are

    All people are made up of many different selves—offspring, sibling, employee, friend, significant other, pet owner, cousin, neighbor, you get the picture. How you interact with the people in each of...

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    Self-Awareness: How Our Bodies Affect Our Choices in a Powerful Way (And How We Can Harness This Power)

    My friend's lack of awareness around her body's choices almost destroyed our relationship - and her life.

    At the beginning of the pandemic, my friend lost her job. The lack of stability fueled her...

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    Self Matters: Tamp Down Your Judgment, Ramp Up Your Life

    Life requires us to make myriad comparisons, and decisions based on them, every day. Most of these judgments help us live our lives with some modicum of comfort, satisfaction, and autonomy. They move...

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    Self-Awareness: How You Can Use Uncertainty as a Life-Changing Tool

    Self-awareness is our ability to identify our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It’s all about understanding who we are and how we fit in the world. As such, it’s one of the most important elements...

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    Self Matters: How Setting Boundaries Can Lead to Your Greatest Freedom

    I believed for many years that if I were “nice” to other people and pleased them enough, they would like me and be “nice” to me, even love me. The strategy backfired every single time. People were...

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    Self-Awareness: A Deadly Misconception that Might Be Hurting Your Self-Insight More Than Helping It

    Self-awareness is our ability to identify our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It’s all about understanding who we are and how we fit in the world. As such, it’s one of the most important elements...

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    Self Matters: You Say What to Your Self!!

    How you talk to yourself whether in your own voice or someone else’s affects your feelings, the way you live, your relationships, your decisions, and your self-care. Negative self-talk contributes to...

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    Self-Awareness: How to Avoid Four Common Traps When Naming Your Emotions

    Self-awareness is our ability to identify our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It’s all about understanding who we are and how we fit in the world. As such, it’s one of the most important elements...

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