Men Matters: What People Don't Notice About You: A Man's Perspective on Self-Image

    Mason Lanier April 25, 2022

    It's easy to forget that self-image is a lot more than just how you look. It's the way we see ourselves in our own minds, and it affects every aspect of our lives. It affects what kind of clothes we wear, how we behave in public, and even who we choose to be friends with. The way someone perceives their own self-image can be incredibly positive or incredibly negative.

    A lot of people think that self-esteem is only about physical appearance, but it's so much more than that. It's about how you see yourself mentally and emotionally as well. It's about your confidence levels, your self-esteem, and your overall outlook on life. It's important to remember that everyone is different and that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to have a self-image.

    What people don't realize is that self-esteem and introspection are something that we all struggle with at some point in our lives. It's normal to have days where you feel good about yourself and days where you don't. The important thing is to not get too wrapped up in your own self-image. It's not worth letting it control your life.

     

    What is Self Image and Why Does it Matter?

    Self-image is the perception that we have of ourselves. It affects our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Our self-image can be positive or negative. Positive self-esteem is when we see ourselves in a good light. We feel confident and happy with who we are. Negative self-esteem is when we see ourselves in a bad light. We might feel unworthy or unlovable.

    Self-image is important because it affects how we live our lives. It can impact our relationships, our careers, and our overall well-being. When we have positive self-esteem, we're more likely to take risks and pursue our dreams. We're also more likely to have healthier relationships. On the other hand, when we have negative self-esteem, we're more likely to fall into destructive patterns of behavior.

     

    How Self-Image Affects Your Life

    Our self-image affects every aspect of our lives. It can determine what kind of clothes we wear, how we behave in public, and even who we choose to be friends with.

    Here are some specific ways that your self-image can affect your life:

     

    Career

    Your self-image can affect your career choices and your ability to succeed in your chosen field. If you have a negative view of yourself, you may be less likely to take risks or pursue your dream career. You may also have difficulty succeeding in a competitive environment.

     

    Relationships

    Your self-image can affect your relationships with others. If you have a negative view of yourself, you may be less likely to pursue healthy and fulfilling relationships. You may also be more likely to stay in unhealthy or abusive relationships.

     

    Health

    Your self-image can affect your physical and mental health. If you have a negative view of yourself, you may be more likely to engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as smoking, drinking, or gambling. You may also be at increased risk for developing anxiety or depression. This can be worrisome for a lot of men due to feeling like there's no one you can talk to without sounding "soft".

     

    Ways to Improve Your Self-Image

    Everyone can benefit from improving their self-image. Here are a few ways to get started:

     

    1. Live a healthy lifestyle.

    Eating healthy foods and exercising regularly can help you feel good about yourself physically and mentally. When you take care of your body, it's easier to have a positive self-image.

     

    2. Practice self-compassion.

    Beating yourself up will only make you feel worse. Instead, try to be understanding and accepting of yourself. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that you're just human.

     

    3. Seek professional help if necessary.

    If you're struggling to improve your self-image on your own, seek professional help. A therapist can help you understand and change the negative thoughts and beliefs that are causing you distress.

     

    The Importance of Not Letting Your Own Image Control You

    Self-esteem is something that we all struggle with at some point in our lives. It's normal to have days where you feel good about yourself and days where you don't. The important thing is to not get too wrapped up in your own self-image.

    What's more important is how we deal with those feelings of insecurity. If we let them control our lives, then we're doing ourselves a disservice. Instead, focus on accepting yourself for who you are and striving to be the best version of yourself. Remember that there is so much more to you than just your self-esteem, and be proud of the person you are today. It's not worth letting it control your life. Instead, focus on accepting yourself for who you are and living your life to the fullest.

    It's important to remember that self-image is just one aspect of who you are. There is so much more to consider when it comes to your worth and value as a person. Don't let a lack of self-esteem hold you back from living a happy and fulfilling life. Instead, use it as motivation to pursue your dreams and goals. Embrace your uniqueness and strive to be the best version of yourself.

     

    Examples of How People Have Overcome A Negative Self-Image

    Everyone has a negative self-image at some point in their lives. Here are a few examples of how people have overcome negative self-esteem:

     

    1: Accept yourself for who you are.
    This is probably the most important thing you can do to improve your self-image. If you accept yourself for who you are, then you'll be less likely to criticize yourself or feel ashamed of your flaws which will allow you to step into the role of being your own hero.

     

    2: Surround yourself with positive people.
    When you're around positive people, it's easier to have a positive view of yourself. These people will help build you up and make you feel good about yourself.

     

    3: Pursue your dreams and goals.
    If you have something to strive for, then you're less likely to focus on your flaws. Pursuing your dreams will give you a sense of purpose and make you feel good about yourself.

     

    4: Find a hobby or activity that you enjoy.
    Doing things that make you happy will help improve your self-image. When you're doing something you love, it's easier to forget about your flaws and focus on the positive aspects of yourself.

     

    5: Spend time outside in nature.
    Being in nature can help improve your mood and give you a more positive outlook on life. When you're feeling good, it's easier to have a positive view of yourself.

     

    6: Help others and give back to the community.
    When you help others, it makes you feel good about yourself.

     

    The Impact of Media on Self-Image

    The impact of media is a topic that has been widely discussed in recent years. With the rise of social media, people are more exposed to images of perfect bodies and perfect lives. This can lead to a lot of insecurity and self-doubt. It's important to remember that what we see on social media is not always real. These people are often just putting on a facade for the sake of likes and followers.

    It's important to be mindful of the images you're exposing yourself to. Don't compare yourself to those unrealistic images on social media. Instead, focus on being happy with who you are. Remember that you are beautiful and unique, and you don't need to look like someone else to be happy.

     

    Why it's Important to be Accepting

    Acceptance is key. If you can't accept yourself for who you are, then you'll never be happy with yourself. You'll always be looking for ways to improve yourself, and you'll never be content. I struggled with this quite a bit when I was younger.

    Acceptance is about being okay with who you are, flaws and all. It's about realizing that you're not perfect, and that's okay. It's about being comfortable in your own right and knowing that you are worthy of love and respect no matter your social norm or situation.

    When you accept yourself, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities. You become more accepting of others, and you begin to see the beauty in diversity. You realize that there is no one right way to look or be. You become more confident in yourself.

    So if you're struggling with image problems, remember to be accepting of yourself. Acceptance is the key to happiness.

     

    To Conclude

     

    Whether you're struggling with a self-identity, or perhaps even one that someone has placed within you, doesn't matter. What matters is that you have the power to craft whatever it is that you want. We all grow up thinking the way we were brought up to think and that can be hard to break free from... but it CAN be done. In fact, in most cases, we start off close-minded so it SHOULD be done. Thanks for reading.

     

     
    Mason LanierAbout the author:  Mason Lanier is a happy and successful father of 3 who has studied personal development for nearly a decade. He works towards helping others become happy and motivated for growth through learned studies and personal experiences.
     
    "Learn how to work harder on yourself, than you do on your job" -Jim Rohn

     

     

     

     

     

    J4THOIBanner_1392x431_050621-1

     

     

    Comments
    HIDESHOW